Beliefs that perpetuate the disorder
|Most people suffering from bulimia are subject to thought distortions, that is, mistaken beliefs that occur automatically, in the form of postulates, or rules of life. It is as if you have established a contract with yourself at some point in your life and wish to maintain it forever, at any cost. You have not been able to challenge it and change the clauses based on your development. This is what now perpetuates the disorder.
Some examples of beliefs that you might challenge:
- My self worth depends on my weight.
- I cannot tolerate negative comments about my appearance.
- I must be thin because it will make me attractive and happy.
- My clothes must always look perfect on me or else everyone will notice me.
- For me, not being thin = being fat.
- Being kind to myself is always a sign of weakness.
- Self-control is always a sign of strength and discipline.
- There is no ground between complete success and utter failure.
- Others can eat three meals a day, but I don't need to.
- Sweets, bread and cereals are bad foods because they are always converted into fat.
- I must, at any cost, keep from gaining weight because being fat is a weakness and would make me unattractive; I will inevitably be unhappy and feel abandoned.
- If people don't compliment me on my appearance, it means they don't like the way I look.
- However, if people compliment me, it is only to make me happy and not because they really believe what they say.
- If I gain a pound, I will end up gaining 20 pounds.